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What is this obsession we have with certainty? We are itching to know what we will be doing in ten years, the car we will be driving, and we even go as far to plan out every step between today and then to ensure that we receive that picture in our head….that certainty. Another instance, for example, we go on a date. Eventually, our minds take a detour and we catch ourselves wondering…what will this be labeled as? Is he/she even ready for something serious? If not, what are their intentions? We can even apply this infatuation with certainty to our professional life, whether we are applying for a job or starting a company. What good does it do to expend an immeasurable amount of energy unnecessarily worrying or analyzing different possible scenarios? Don’t get me wrong, it is important to have a plan or some direction that shows what is important to you.
Why am I rambling about certainty?
Because I believe we all can be better in just letting go and embracing the unknown in life. When I had graduated college a few years ago, I was surrounded by unknown in every direction. I was faced with multiple options career-wise…one entailed pursuing an MPH program in my home state, another was taking up an offer with one of the best companies in Pharmaceuticals but that was located in a state where I originally could not point on a map, and the last option was with a small consulting firm on the west coast. At the time, all I could think about was my independence and drive to earn for myself…so I chose Pharma and landed in the tundra, also known as, Minnesota. If you had told me in school that I would be residing in one of the coldest states in the country, I would have scoffed at you and left the room. But, this is uncertainty at its finest. Trust me, it was quite the ride. I did not know a soul in the state and had to essentially start from scratch. Fast foward, two and half years later, I may be wearing twenty layers and cursing the ice 5 months out of the year…however, I am truly happy. My job is one I can wake up and look forward to every day where I have been blessed with superiors who truly care about my growth and also take the time to recognize/commend when I lead innovatively and create opportunities. I also have the the greatest of friends that I can rely on, be completely blunt with, and enjoy the adventures life has to offer with.
So, my point is that certainty would be nice sometimes…we have all been there where we want to rip our hair out because of the urge to just have answers or clarity. One thing we forget is that the journey to get to those answers can be a different kind of exciting and fulfilling in its own way, that it should not be overlooked. Okay, you’re thinking…how cliche, it is the “Life is a journey not a destination” reference again…here we go.
Well, think of it this way: did you appreciate something that you received instantly as opposed to something that took a bit longer, was filled with endless amounts of hard work, and a few sleepless nights? Would you value someone more if you hadn’t gone on all those wretched and awkward dates with other individuals? More importantly, would you be ready or prepared for what you received today if you had not experienced what you did yesterday?
At the end of the day, this is just my personal perspective to share with you. I believe if we can all let go a bit more and enjoy the process, we would be much happier and grateful in what today has placed at our feet. I will leave you with one of my favorite quotes: